What IS Your Drive?

Very early on in our lives, some of us already know what we want to do with the rest of our lives. Some may want to be a doctor; some may want to be an attorney; some a professional athlete; some a journalist; some, maybe a business owner. The rest of us really don’t have a clue what we want to do & therefore flow down the stream of life, sometimes efficiently down the center, other times bouncing off the rocks like a pinball, & other times stuck in a crevice seemingly going nowhere.Child Thinking

The difference? One may say “I want to be a doctor”, but what they really mean (the reason why) is that they want to heal the sick. They know what they want, but more importantly, WHY. Often times they’re willing to do whatever it takes to fulfill their WHY.

What do you want out of life? If your answer to that question is, “I want to make a lot of money”, well, how do you plan on accomplishing that? Making lots of money is not a clearly defined goal! It’s not even a real WHY, the thing that’s going to keep you going, the thing that lights your fire, the thing that gives you the enthusiasm & commitment to keep going no matter what.

Here are a few questions to ask yourself:

Do you really like your job?

Do you like the people you work with?…..Work for?

Do you have a hobby or pastime you really enjoy? Enough time to pursue it?

What makes you feel really good?

What gets you excited, enthusiastic?

If you had all the money in the world, what would you do with it?

What problem scares the dickens out of you, that more money could solve?

If you had all the free time in the world, what would you do?

Other than making more money, what do you really want to accomplish?

How do you feel about yourself right now, doing what you’re doing?

Does it feel good to help someone else?

What tugs on your emotional  side, even anger?

Out of all the things in the world, what would you like to give your family the most?

What would motivate you to get your butt off the couch, & get moving towards your goals?

There’s a list of the “WHYS” we all have to justify why we are doing what we are doing. For many of us, the problem with our current list of “WHYS” is that they don’t afford us the happiness, security, & satisfaction we seek in life. See if these don’t ring a bell:

It’s the only job I could find right now…..what else was I supposed to do?

My dad was a doctor….. he expected me to be one.

No one in my family has ever made a lot of money…..it’s in our DNA

You have to be very lucky to make a lot of money.

If it were my decision, I’d work at home, but I need the money now, I don’t have time to build & wait.

I don’t know how to do anything else.

Going back to school takes too long & costs too much.

I have to work, so sometimes I miss family activities. I don’t have a choice. What else could I do?

Obviously, I could go on & on, but I think you get the idea.

Why not put together a new list of “WHYS” & put an action plan together to make them happen.

For example:

John wants to have more time with the family so he can enjoy the children while they’re growing up

He also feels good when he’s helping people, especially when he’s teaching people how to do something.

He’s mortified these days about not being able to pay the bills.

His job is “ho hum”, no excitement, no challenge. People at work are unpleasant. Pay stinks.

TravelHe would love to travel. Traveling to different countries & places would be exciting & invigorate the marriage & family. But there’s no time to travel.

 John’s “WHYS”

I want to spend more quality time with my children, enjoying their childhood.

I want the time to help others learn new things, things that would better their lives.

I want the income that will meet my needs.

I want a career with flexible hours & the pay necessary to do the things I want to do.

I want the time & income to be able to travel frequently.

Once you have a clear focus on what your “WHYS” are, keep them visible. These “WHYS” are what will give the motivation necessary to take action & to do WHATEVER IT TAKES to be successful in what you decide to do.

The “WHYS” are really what it’s all about. It’s the “DRIVE” to keep you going so you don’t give up.

Contact me with your “WHYS”.  Together we’ll go over them & find ways to fulfill them.

The choice really is yours. Choose wisely.

To your success,

Ted Heims

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